Having good relationships with others whether they be neighbours, work colleagues, family, friends, friends of friends – in other words people – helps make life more productive and happy. Of course it’s not always easy to get along with everyone. We don’t always share the same views, values, beliefs and our personalities may clash but there are ways we can relate to each other that makes interactions more ‘pleasant’.
- Be a good listener. Taking the time to listen to another without judgement or being ready to reply does take some practice. Listening to another allows for understanding, acknowledgement and gaining knowledge and perspective.
- Asking questions. Come to a conversation with a sense of curiosity. Not only does it help to understand and learn but it also helps the other party reflect and, depending on the context, may assist in finding solutions and reasoning.
- Treat others how you wish to be treated. The ‘Golden Rule’. Think about how you behave in interactions – especially with those who may seem difficult and challenging. Being respectful, kind and compassionate will help strengthen poor relationships.
- Know your boundaries. Being clear about what you will accept and what you won’t helps to ensure the other party understands your values, limits, wants and needs to underpin the expectations of the relationship and the behaviour needed to get along.
- Smile! Being approachable and having a positive attitude can change the way we think and how we behave. If you are not in a good frame of mind, see tip 4 and create the boundary of asking for a better time to meet and have a conversation.
If you are needing help with an important relationship, please contact us and we would be happy to assist you to create the best outcomes for all involved.